Friday, November 19, 2010

Cherish what you have.

I've been trying to teach myself and live by the mantra of "cherish what you have" for years. First time I can really remember thinking this is when my uncle Tony got sick in 2000. 14 years of battling various diseases. Since I was only 18 in 2000, I realized that I would have been four if he didn't fight as hard as he did. I wish I cherished having him more than I showed. If my mom didn't fight as hard as she did, I probably would have been 3 when she died.

In the interim I have traveled to all inhabitable continents (in the British 5 continents terminology) to 28 countries and met a whole load of friends. What I want to know now is why I am focusing on certain people who I have lost in my life. (Friendship wise I mean) There is one in particular who I am mourning but I have to move on. This person was influential in some of my time abroad. Many times, we would just meet up at a Pub and chat. Last time I went to this person's country, I chatted on the phone and had a good time talking to her/him. Now, I wrote to them write before I left for California. This person also worked for my company at one point so I wanted to share. But, no response to the email and I went on to Facebook and saw that I have been "defriended." I also was defriended by someone who I actively divorced as a friend - or passively. I don't know.

What I'm wondering is why do I care about these people who obviously don't care about me. I need to cherish what I have.


this is something I was finishing up the last week I was in California. Didn't know why I didn't send it. Now I'll try to update more and more as the winter months shut us in here in Pittsburgh

1 comments:

Michele said...

Hi Ian,

Remember me? Michele from NHS. I can definitely relate to this post. You're one of the many people with whom I've lost touch over the years. In most cases that's not so bad, but I think I'd like to talk to you again if you're game. Send me an email, won't you? I've learned a lot from your blog, but I'm sure there's much more to say! (I can also send you a link to my blog if it doesn't attach itself automatically to this comment.)

Cheers!
Michele