Just plain sad

I had a horrible experience this morning with someone who I thought was intelligent and kind of cool. Needless to say, the moral of this blog (I know you normally don't hit the moral first but hey bear with me) is that even though we have come so far with rights and acceptance, we still have so far to go. I was waiting this morning in front of the hotel and we were just talking. Somehow, we got from talking about food to him making fun of a gay man who works at the hotel. I just stood there stupidly looking at him thinking, HE KNOWS who I am, he's got the same name as my husband and I remember telling him that. Well, he was talking to me about how this one guy who works there (typical SF area flaming gay man). Almost right away, the wrist starting flapping and the lisp got turned on. We were standing in a group of three - me, him and an Italian man, so no one he had to really be macho and show off in front of. But man, he just kept going! He went on to say that he takes the cookies this gay man makes every day for us and runs. He told me that he doesn't hang around because E (the gay) is winking at him all the time. I will say this guy had a nice look about him but the attitude he has just turned him into one of the ugliest people I've seen. And yet he kept going. He mentioned to the Italian that he was just too nice. The Italian hangs around the lobby for a bit talking to everybody who is there. He later told me he doesn't understand the Americans issues with gays. TO the American, I made sure to show my complete disgust on my face and made it as awkward as possible to be around me for him. I said to him, I'm sure you are just not that man's type. He looked at me and suddenly got beet red. It came to him who he was talking to. Score one for me.

I just have been thinking about this alot this morning. I don't know why we as a society sit around and accept making fun of gay people as something that is funny. If someone did that to say Hispanics, or say Blacks not many people would be laughing. Racism would be accused and the offender would be socially shunned. Now, on my side, people just laugh and nothing is thought about it. Hopefully though, this one guy will think twice before he makes fun of that again.

Probably not though.